Dear Mike, My name is Leah.
I've heard that a stranger listens the best, because they don't know you to truly judge you. After reading all three of your books and patiently awaiting the boyfriend book, I have finally realize I'm selling myself short. Way shorter than I realize, I never understood how much of a hold one person could have on your heart. Sometimes as humans I wish we could just turn on feelings off, that way we can keep from hurting ourselves or being hurt by someone else. I really hope that I am able to purchase tickets to for the boyfriend tour. Since your not doing one your home town LA is the one I want to go to. Finally get back to the west coast and get away from some responsibilities for a weekend. The reasoning for my email is to ask you from a mans point a view, when you tell a woman that you are trying to do more for yourself and get your life together. But you still wanna have contact with her and telling her you miss her and still love her. Everything is still the same as in the relationship your just not together. How do you expect her to feel and react to that bit of knowledge. Am I wasting my time, I don't have the slightest idea on what I should do anymore. You seem like you give some of the best advice, so I really can use some. You can always give advice but never take your own.
Sorry for the delay in getting back. I hope all is well with you. I'm glad you emailed me about this because it is a question that will help a lot of women. First you have to understand that some of the people can have all the love in the world for you, that they just can't do anything with. This is a truth that your are going to have to walk with, even after you leave some people where they are. How is this possible? Because to have love for someone doesn't not require action, just a feeling. To prove love however, you must put forth the effort. This is where some men find it a little difficult to progress. This puts women in a bit of a "pickle". This makes a woman feel like they are asking for too much, or they are not understanding of a mans feelings. If you give the wrong guy too much power, he can use it against you. Lets make sure we aren't doing that. A lot of women struggle with doing whats best for love, and doing whats best for them. What I need you to understand is that in order to fully achieve real happiness, these two feelings must operate together. And when they don't, you must always pick you. Especially when we are talking about boyfriends. I would go into a little more detail but i might be giving away some of the secrets of "The Boyfriend Book." I hope I helped a little at least. As far as wasting time, I cant really say. All I can tell you is that when you put all your eggs into one basket, you better have at least one hand on the handle.
Hope to meet you soon. Be well.